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yung-shordy said: What would you consider warning signs when talking to a guy?

misandry-mermaid:

cocoamoon:

saturnineaqua:

christel-thoughts:

littlefo0t:

blackgirlsrpretty2:

  • "My ex is crazy." In most cases not true. He is most likely the crazy one.
  • If he’s over 18 and not in school and doesn’t work or have a car (and isn’t trying to either) he’s a bum and is most likely looking for someone to monetarily provide for him
  • If you do date someone who has a child (which I don’t recommend) but if it does happen be VERY cautious if you NEVER hear him speak about his children, spending time with them, see him with them..etc… he most likely aint shit and will talk about his child’s mother being crazy (which jumps back to my first point)… especially if he has more than one with different women….RUN (he doesn’t like to use condoms and if you get pregnant it will be a YOU problem)
  • Guys who spend money on things he wants instead of needs…. and when he needs something you have to pay for it (like dudes who have weed but no money to eat)
  • Guys who ask for nudes or talk anything sexual within the first few conversations without invitation
  • Guys who put down other women. Like the guy who doesn’t like dark skinned women or talks shit about women who wear weave but doesn’t date women with natural hair…
  • Guys with the “Lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets” mentality. Normally are against anything pro-women…
  • If he already within a first few conversations is jealous or angry towards the idea of you talking to other guys. 

So many other things but it’s 5am and I can’t think…

Most of this list sums up my college dating experience

Anybody who says “I would never let my girl (insert thing an adult should have the freedom to decide whether or not to do here)”

if they try to separate you from the people you care about

if you have a suspicion that they’re insecure about any of your accomplishments

if he says “females” instead of “women”, “ladies” or even “girls”

the first time you hear him refer to a woman as a “bitch”, “thot”, “ho”, etc and he can’t reasonably explain how that term applies, just has some throwaway answer…she probably rejected him in the past or has her own mind. He’ll be calling you that after he does something shitty enough for you to leave.

if he tries to control the things you do or own (pets , vacations etc) without actually making any commitment to you.

(this ones connected to my fist one) if he tries to make you give up or abandon something for his love example “would you give up your dog for me?” (was actually asked of me in a very sweetheart, romantic big eyed tone)

if he’s so “busy”.

if he only seems to call you around for sex.

if he is constantly trying to pressure you into sexual acts you have previously told him makes you uncomfortable.

if he tries to make you feel insecure or foolish for enjoying the things you enjoy.

if he only seems to care about you, or becomes jealous the second you begin another relationship.

(and this sorta goes without saying) has no problem dating someone much much younger than him, or taking advantage of teenagers.

etc

Just to add:
(sorry if these were already mentioned)

• If he uses his “strong emotions” for you to manipulate you ex: I get so depressed when you go x amount of time without calling me

• if he says, “but I’m a nice/good guy” to get to you to do something you’ve said you’re uncomfortable with

• if he’s never where he says he will be when he says he’ll be there OR keeps you waiting an excessive amount of time

• if he stalks your social media profiles

• if he says “if I were gonna hurt you, don’t you think I would’ve done it by now?”

Basically, if it don’t feel right, it ain’t right.

if he denies things that have happened, especially details that incriminate him… for example you were having an argument and he pushes you, but later says he didn’t

if he raises his voice but demands that you speak softly or calmly

if he reinforces other double standards, like the idea that you aren’t allowed to talk to/be friends with other men but calls you insecure or crazy if you mention that he talks to/is friends with women

if he claims your personal property as his own without permission

if he guilts you into doing things for him consistently without reciprocation

if he speaks in a derogatory way about women when around his male friends, or his personality changes drastically for the worse when the room is dominated by men

workingclassfucker:

gallifrey-feels:

balladofwormzlp:

bakedandbipolar:

every.single.one.of.these

ladies and gentlemen, the most accurate post on tumblr

opium

Sounds about right

lycanheiress:

boushi—adams:

maraglen:

feistyfrank:

davediddlystrider:

This man is qualified to play as nightwing

This man is qualified to fuck me

I think he is qualified to be a helicopter too

This man is qualified

killbenedictcumberbatch:

A black boy gets murdered and his community stands up for him and are attacked by police for over 2 months and are deemed animals and violent rioters

white people set cars on fire over some damn pumpkins and get called “rowdy” aint that some shit

believeinrecovery:

A little table to how to get rid of all that negative self-talk. We have to learn look at the good in situations too, instead of dwelling on things we can’t change- because you know what? We may not be able to change what is happening but we CAN change how we view it! 

totallyamelia:

imightgetcynical:

totallyamelia:

Yeaaaahhh…

Marriage equality is cool and all, but uh…

Trickle down equality, yo!

totallyamelia:

imightgetcynical:

totallyamelia:

Yeaaaahhh…

Marriage equality is cool and all, but uh…

Trickle down equality, yo!

princess tiana: raises money on her own and starts her own business as a black woman in the fucking 20s
everyone:
princess anna: kinda saves her sister after getting played off as the silly quirky girl the entire movie
everyone: WHOA!!!! WHAT A FEMINIST!!!!! HOLY SHIT THE ONLY DISNEY PRINCESS TO EVER HAVE GIRL POWER!!!!!! HOLY SHIT!!!!!! HOLY SHI

peircethebvbjackie:

•BISEXUALITY IS NOT A PHASE

•FEMINISM IS NOT ABOUT BEING BETTER THAN MEN

•RAPE IS NOT ENJOYABLE

•SEXUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE

•ANXIETY IS NOT “CUTE”

•EATING DISORDERS ARE NOT A BODY TYPE

contrafuckingband:

thegirlwhocriedfoxface:

heyjohnimhomo:

this scene really got me. I think it’s a perfect example of people’s views on abortions. 

For 75 years 1000+ children have been sent into the arena to fight for survival for the enjoyment of the richest people. Then along with that there are a million+ children across the other districts living in abstract poverty. All of them too, fighting for survival. The chance for them to move up in the world is virtually impossible because they don’t have the tools to do so and the people above them have kept them down as much as possible. 

However the idea that a foetus, a blob of cells, is at risk and suddenly they stand up and protest. 

Too much value is placed on the unborn, and not enough on those already alive. 

(gifs)

SOMEONE FINALLY SAID THE THING *THANK YOU*

"If you’re pre-born, you’re fine, if you’re pre-school, you’re fucked." 

fat women: *gets shit on by peers, media, the fashion industry, products and marketing*
skinny women: *praised by literally everyone*
skinny women: *doesn't say shit while fat women are being put down*
Nicki: fuck skinny bitches
skinny women: what the FUCK what htE FUCK??? YOU ARE Nt gonna get ANYhwer by shMING ANY body type...we have to LOVE evyer,,,one!!!!1111
khawlabentalazwaar:

gothamcityballet:

deafmuslimpunx:

exquisitedialectics:

takealookatyourlife:

Aiya Van Kooten everyone

When Aiya Van Kooten stood face-to-face with a burglar in her bedroom, her left eye twitched, then she went into “predator mode”.
“I screamed at him… jumped off my chair, leaped over my bed and sprinted after him down the stairs,” she said.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/8626910/Predator-mode-scares-off-burglars

This is the best story of my life

“Although she was the only one home, Van Kooten said she had no regard for her safety - instead, she said she was just overwhelmed with “rage“….. ummmmm Hero!!! 

Haha, badass Muslim woman. Love it!!!

This lady is so awesome. She lives with her grandma and was studying and had a towel on her head and no shoes but she chased them out of her garden, kicked one up the arse as he climbed a fence, they dropped a camera and laptop, she flagged down a passing driver to help her continue the pursuit, and it turned out he was ex-military, and they finally caught one of them in a park and pinned him as the police arrived. Now she’s going to visit the burglar in prison for the next few months to help with his rehabilitation.
So in summary:
This lady doesn’t just defend her home and loved ones, she will hunt you down, team up with other skilled individuals, get you put away, and then teach you the consequences of your actions until you’re a valuable member of society once more.
Seriously she’s a frigging superhero.

literal hero

khawlabentalazwaar:

gothamcityballet:

deafmuslimpunx:

exquisitedialectics:

takealookatyourlife:

Aiya Van Kooten everyone

When Aiya Van Kooten stood face-to-face with a burglar in her bedroom, her left eye twitched, then she went into “predator mode”.

“I screamed at him… jumped off my chair, leaped over my bed and sprinted after him down the stairs,” she said.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/8626910/Predator-mode-scares-off-burglars

This is the best story of my life

Although she was the only one home, Van Kooten said she had no regard for her safety - instead, she said she was just overwhelmed with “rage“….. ummmmm Hero!!! 

Haha, badass Muslim woman. Love it!!!

This lady is so awesome. She lives with her grandma and was studying and had a towel on her head and no shoes but she chased them out of her garden, kicked one up the arse as he climbed a fence, they dropped a camera and laptop, she flagged down a passing driver to help her continue the pursuit, and it turned out he was ex-military, and they finally caught one of them in a park and pinned him as the police arrived. Now she’s going to visit the burglar in prison for the next few months to help with his rehabilitation.

So in summary:

This lady doesn’t just defend her home and loved ones, she will hunt you down, team up with other skilled individuals, get you put away, and then teach you the consequences of your actions until you’re a valuable member of society once more.

Seriously she’s a frigging superhero.

literal hero

niggathot:

who-is-madonna:

graphitetroll:

haitian-sensati0n:

blackorchidd:

harrietsrevenge:

thisiswhiteculture:


Never forget…Dorothy Counts being mocked by an entirely white audience on enrollment day at Harding High School. September 4th, 1957

and they call US savages

Never fucking forget

Never

Never forget

The people in this photo are SOME OF YA’LLS GRANDPARENTS. Not your great great great great grandparents. Your GRANDPARENTS. Your dad’s dad.

these could easily be parents as well.

this is 15 minutes away from where i live

niggathot:

who-is-madonna:

graphitetroll:

haitian-sensati0n:

blackorchidd:

harrietsrevenge:

thisiswhiteculture:

Never forget…Dorothy Counts being mocked by an entirely white audience on enrollment day at Harding High School. September 4th, 1957

and they call US savages

Never fucking forget

Never

Never forget

The people in this photo are SOME OF YA’LLS GRANDPARENTS. Not your great great great great grandparents. Your GRANDPARENTS. Your dad’s dad.

these could easily be parents as well.

this is 15 minutes away from where i live